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We're Moving: Big Changes In 2013

Hey Everyone!! it's been about a year since I've posted.. :( sorry. I do however have great news, we are moving. I've decided to switch locations and trust me there will be more information and and allot more posts. Bare with me and keep watch I will post our new link shortly.


                        Blessings,
                           ~Lady B

Love Letter

Most of us have received or written a love letter for the person we are romantically attracted to in this letter you are putting your feelings on the line in hopes that, that person feels the same way. A few years ago I got to a point in my life were I realized that as young girls women we seek the attention of the opposite sex especially on Valentine’s Day, we anticipate the letters, cards, flowers and candy and we are trained like this from childhood beginning in kindergarten when you use to buy the entire class, but there was always that special someone that you gave that extra lollipop to….

That being said I said to myself there are two people in my life that I’ve failed to acknowledge God and myself, when you think about it so have you. Us girls have days when we pamper ourselves at the spa or go shopping, and get the hair lookin on point, but we treat the outside we forget about the inside. I won’t go into healthy eating right now, but that is something to think about as well. I decided that every now and then I will be writing a love letter to God and myself. The purpose is to learn to encourage yourself to remind yourself of the things that God has done for you, and to know that when it’s all said and done all you have is God and yourself. Family and friends sometimes let you down so who do you have? Boyfriends come and go, who do you have?

I would like all of you to begin from this day forward to begin writing love letters to God and yourself from time to time. Don’t miss out on the most important relationships in your life they are truly life changing; you’re never too young or old to change your life.

Dear Me,

 You have not been at your best, you have let the past and the present struggles interfere with your dreams, and the path God laid before you. I want you to know that I Love you thru it all I promise to stand by your side, and remind you of how much you are worth….

                                                             ~LadyB

Vision Board 2012

2012 is right around the corner and LadyB wants her girls to walk into the new Year with Vision. Your task should you choose to accept it
(you better<Smile>) is to create a vision Board, and here is what you will need:

                               

Materials:

1.    Poster Board

2.    Magazines

3.    Camera (to take pictures)

4.    Glue

5.    Markers/Color Pencils

Activity:

On your poster board you will put pictures you cut out of the magazine or pictures you have taken of the things you are looking to accomplish in 2012.

The purpose of the activity is to not just say that you want to do but to actually see it, you are to place your vision board somewhere in your house where you can see it every day, and you should make an effort toward at least one of your goals every day.

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Although it is good to know what you want to do and accomplish, but to see it every day can boost your confidence and your stamina to make an effort towards one of your goals. A business woman knows what she wants, she plans ahead, and takes a step by step approach to until the job is done. A business woman researches her every possibility, she takes opinions with discernment and makes decisions through prayer.

I am very excited about what is in store for LadyB’s Achievers, 2012 is sure to result in much success. I would love to hear about your vision boards and your successes.

                                                  ~LadyB  

Cell Phone Etiquette

Last Thursday I was thinking of what to post and it came to me as I looked at my cell phone, I said I will post about cell phone etiquette because it is newly formed pet peeve of mine. I know that many teens get a bad rep for poor behavior, but I will say ladies it is not just you some of us adults seem to not know when to put the device away. I find it very funny that I wanted to write on this subject and on Friday morning I turned to MTV and True Life comes on “I’m addicted to Texting”.

Due to this becoming a new found pet peeve I am still working on my own personal cell phone etiquette so don’t think I have the perfect etiquette, but trust me I am very particular of my behavior. Let’s begin our journey on Cell phone usage J

Cell phones are very handy don’t get me wrong, you have everything you need at your figure tips and communication is made easy. So what could be the problem? I’m going to break it down in section 1.Talking on a Cell/Taking a Call, 2.Text Messaging, 3.Taking Pictures/Video’s

 Taking a Call:

So when do you take a call. In my profession youth come to meet with me for consultation on finding employment, I will get the occasional youth come in and answer their phones when they are meeting with me that is a NO, NO.  When you are in meetings or on scheduled appointment you should never take a call, unless you are a doctor on call and inform the person you are meeting with that you are expecting an important call… I don’t meant form your best friend Nicole who is about to tell you the details of her seeing your ex-boyfriend Hakeem with Tiffany your use to be home girl.

Your phone should be on silent when you are in meetings, appointments, social gatherings, or out to dinner…I really hope you get the point. When you are at home or someone’s home you should never bring your cell phone to the table if you do make sure it is on silent and once again inform the host that you are expecting a call from a parent. A call or text message should never be taken/answered at the table.

When accepting a phone call excuse yourself from the people you are with and don’t take forever, I hate when I am with someone and they say excuse me I have to take this and they stay for longer than 5mins. Be considerate of your guest/person(s) you are with its just bad manners.

Places To Cut Your Chat Time:

1. Elevator
2. Bathroom
3. Table
4. Appointments/meetings
5. In Class

Texting:

Let’s get One thing Clear There Is No Texting While Driving!!!!!!! Okay now that I have made myself clear, I think of all of my pet peeves texting is now my #1 issue I have with people period, but my lovely youngins that see everyday. Ladies I truly understand that texting is a better way of communicating especially because no one can hear what you are saying, but Really!??? When do you stop??

When I meet with my youth I can’t seem to have their full attention because of texting, facebooking, tweeting, etc.. so you know what I do?... You guessed it I have them put them away. Don’t get me wrong I text also, but when appropriate settings and times. I see youth texting when they are driving, working, in class, in meetings I’m not yelling I’m just sayin. Trust! I remember what it was like to be in a boring class with a monotone teacher lecture about history, math or something like that. I just want to bring to you attention that while you are texting you are not paying attention and sometimes yes LadyB has to check herself as well I am not perfect. Texting is truly an addiction, along with commenting on your status updates or answering your tweets. Don’t think I am passing judgment on my young followers because I have colleagues that do the same thing, checking emails, texting, checking sports stats..SMH 

O but there is one more texting BIG TIME NO NO! Texting in church… Ladies, Ladies, Ladies… Ladies, Ladies, Ladies. Now this is my time to get real serious because I have seen this happen with my own four eyes (I wear contacts) Lol! Church is a place of worship not social networking again I don’t forget what it was to be young, but like I said there is a time and place. I know sometimes there is just something you are dying to say so you may write a note okay fine, but to keep it flowing Umm…No. Remember what you are in church for and that is learning how to live your daily lives, to receive from God, and to build your spiritual relationship with Him. Yes, I know this is so painful to hear, but somebody’s got to say it J I still love you.

(Note: I hope you know this applies to playing games as well? You’re not getting off that easy J)

We must realize in all things there has to be moderation. At the beginning I told you how I was watching and MTV segment of True Life “I’m Addicted to Text”, they followed two young ladies who text over 90,000 messages combined, to make a long story short their obsession with text caused one young lady her marriage because all she did was text, and the other young lady who was 17 a senior in High School on her volleyball team lost out on a college scholarship because she developed carpel tunnel which will likely affect her the rest of her life because it is a muscle injury…Something to think about.

I want my girls to be well rounded don’t forget about regular conversation practice the way you speak because you need these skills in the work place you can text a job interview. I will leave speaking alone for now that is a whole notha otha conversation. Be Blessed ladies and remember to give those cell phones a break at some point, and not just when you go to sleep J

                                                                           ~Lady B

Click The Link Below to view episode.

http://www.mtv.com/videos/true-life-im-a-textaholic/1672744/playlist.jhtml

Love Doesn't Hurt ~ I Can Do Bad All By Myself!

 

I stood up for you when my parents said you were no good. I snuck out of the house just to spend time with you. I encouraged and believed in you when others said you would fail. You asked me if I love you I said “Yes”, you told me I was the only one for you, your boo, your bae, your sexy young thang. You asked me to prove my love time and time again until I finally gave in and gave you me Everything.

You said you would be there for me that nothing, no one will tear us apart. The first time you hit me I said it was my fault; you had a bad day and my nagging made things worse. You choked me because I talked back, you punched me because I didn’t call back, you dragged me by my hair out the mall because I was hanging with my friends. I hid the bruises you gave me; I quit cheerleading, tennis, and SGA just so you could have me all to yourself.  All in All I loved you, I said it was me to blame I wanted to be the perfect girlfriend never to make you mad again.

You told me how hard you have it, your dad was never around, your mom can’t stand to look at you because all she see’s is your dead beat dad. I held you when you cried to me and told me that I’m the one. You told me that things would get better that you would never lay a hand on me again. Though your words were true I never imagined the baseball bat, the kick to the ribs and the gun in my face.

I never imagined or knew what true love was until I saw the people crowd this place, the tears the flowers, and comfort towards my parents, my sisters and my brothers. I never knew what true love was because I guess I really never loved me. True love was standing in from of me; they were my family and my friends. I can’t tell them how I feel now; I will never be able to feel what love feels like because I’m lying here dead. In rage you said you loved me that no one will ever love me the way you do, I guess you were right. Now both of our lives are over, though it is too late I finally comprehend what true love it and now I know that true love doesn’t have to hurt.

Note From Lady B:

Ladies don’t think this can’t happen to you.

• 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year.
• One in 10 high school students has been purposefully hit, slapped or physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend.
• Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence—almost triple the national average.

You can find this and more by follow this link: http://www.loveisrespect.org/

Love is not supposed to hurt, love is respect for your boundaries and your body. That first hit, or slaps will more than likely lead to a kick or a punch because he says it won’t happen again does not guarantee it won’t. If you, a friend, or a peer is experiencing domestic violence PLEASE GET HELP! YOUR ARE SPECIAL!!!!!

For More Information on Teen dating Abuse Visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

http://www.thehotline.org/

SMILE

Yeah, I know smile for what, life sucks people don’t pay attention to you parents hassle you about your grades, cleaning your room, which one is it grades or the room? Friends, talking about you behind your back, someone just blasted you on their Facebook status, O but wait, you just found out you failed a test that weigh heavenly on your grade.

Sometimes life is not easy we have rain we have clouds and we have storms. Things are not always going to go our way, we can’t control the mouths of others or their actions. My only advice for the solution to parents is…Drum Roll Please ~~~~~ Do your chores before they ask BAM!! That’s it. As for your grades…Baby you just need to study, point blank.

Ladies life really isn’t as bad as it may seem, sometimes we have to set the tone for our day you have to declare what your day is going to be no matter who says or does what. I know what it means to have a bad day, but I also know what it means to wake up in the morning and declare that “This day is going to be a great day, I have faith, Lord Bless this day” Don’t think because you are young God doesn’t listen and blessings are for you because if you are reading this blog you are Blessed!

Smile baby girl kill what the enemy think he has on you. It’s a new day clouds, rain, storm you are blessed and its only getting better, ALL storms prepare you for sunshine God wants to see how you work in your storms when you get through those trust me little sister, when things come your way they will roll off your shoulder don’t get me wrong you will be tested, but stand firm, have faith God’s Got your Back! So what are we going to do?

                                SMILE!!!   http://youtu.be/6OKXpAtX32M

What’s flavor today?

                                             Blessings

                                                   ~Lady B